For business success, be a shining example of your mission and vision

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In this Life Reading, a client asked the following questions: 

I was in an abusive marriage and left my marital home. A few years later I got divorced. My eldest son, who is now an adult, still holds this against me. His anger at me is now causing problems in his own marriage. He and his wife are currently separated.

Is there any chance of them getting back together? I started a travel company a few years ago organizing tours to India, but it is not going well. I feel blocked at every attempt I make to progress. There is always something that comes up to block my success.

Could you give me some guidance, please? I am not employed and have no other source of income, so my life has been very stressful. I do have a very good man in my life; however, I don’t like being a burden to him, and right now, we survive on his income only. It has been difficult!

Parama received the following information for this Life Reading:

  • a large desk
  • sunlight streaming into your room
  • computer equipment
  • a red wall hanging
  • a vacation with your son
  • reorganizing your office space and getting rid of clutter
  • candlelight and fire, especially within a ceremonial context

The block you have been experiencing in your business venture is related to unresolved shame and guilt that is leftover from your previous abusive relationship. You would benefit from taking more time to meditate – Is there a tiger skin rug or some kind of special rug you can spread on the floor for your meditation time?

By meditating more regularly, you will be able to connect with what this “shame” and “guilt” means to you. Be honest with yourself: reflect on how guilt and shame are still operating in your life today, especially in the context of your business. Have you been denying yourself something out of a sense of guilt? Do you feel that you are undeserving? In your meditation, pray and ask for help to clear the energy of guilt and shame from your life.

Give yourself time to feel into where these emotions may be coming from, and recognize the origin. Realize that you do not have to hold onto these negative energies, and you don’t have to be limited by them. Identify the mission and vision of your business. Then, ask yourself, “Am I a living example of the mission and vision of my business?” In other words, are you living your life in a way that would inspire your would-be customers to seek out your services? If not, then enlist the help of a trusted friend to identify ways that you can start to exemplify your company’s mission and vision. This is important for the success of your business.

It seems that you have been feeling a lack of inspiration in your life in general, and dwelling too much on the past, on what could-have-been, or should-have-been. This is blocking your creativity. Use your meditation to work on releasing this blockage, pray and ask for assistance, and affirm that you are free from guilt and shame.

Affirm that you are a living, breathing example of inspiration for your customers! Is there some kind of creative art that you have been reluctant to do, for some reason? Let this creative expression find its way into your business. Feel the inspiration of your own creativity as it enhances and ignites sparks of life and light into your business activity.

You would benefit from a larger workspace – a desk – for spreading out brochures and organizing papers that seem to have become disorganized. You might consider reorganizing your office space and clearing away unnecessary clutter. Toss old papers that you have no use for anymore. It is important for you to keep your private/personal life separate from your work life as much as possible. This means that you should organize and store work-related papers, files, and materials in a separate room from your personal things. This will help you stay focused, keep your mental thoughts clear, and maintain organization.

Keeping your work life separate from your personal life will also help your current relationship: When you are with your partner at home, try not to discuss your business activities. Stay focused on the everyday, ordinary, enjoyable aspects of life at home with your loving partner. Appreciate the “little things” about the life that you share.

Consider entering into a business partnership with a trusted friend who can help you boost your web marketing. A business partner will take pressure off your romantic partner, because you will have someone else to talk to and strategize about your business.

Take your business to the next level with an upgrade in computer equipment. You and your friend will be able to do this together, but alone, you seem to be lacking certain needed skills in the area of online marketing and promotion of your services.

Eat more fresh fruits. You will benefit from letting more sunlight into your home and exposing your skin to sunlight more often. This will energize you and spark your creativity.

Have you been yearning to take a trip somewhere? Invite your son to accompany you on this special trip. Take the time off from work and other obligations to go on this trip, and be sure to spend quality time alone with your son. It seems that he is dealing with unresolved anger towards you because he has not been able to express it to you or anyone else constructively. Be prepared to engage your son in somewhat emotionally trying dialogues about your past and how your decisions affected him when he was young.

Give him all the time he needs to be honest with you, even if his words are painful for you to hear. Be open and honest with him about your own process – Have you had the opportunity to talk with your son about how the abuse affected you when you were married to your previous partner? Take time to explain to your son how you took his safety and wellness into consideration when you decided to divorce your ex-husband.

Be patient with your son; it may take some time for him to forgive you. Do not pressure him with your own expectations or desires for his life. You must be honest with him about how you feel, but he must make his own decisions.

There is a bold, red-colored wall hanging or decoration that you could gift to your son. Ask him to place it somewhere in his home – on the wall or on a table – where he will see it daily. The color red will help him externalize and express his anger appropriately and constructively.

Consider the benefits of candlelight and fire in your life, especially within a ceremonial context. Look to your community for how and where to do this.

-End of reading-

I wish you the best on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing. —Parama

Looking for someone to love? Be the love you seek.

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In this request for a Life Reading, a client asked the following questions: 

  • Will a love relationship form in my life in the near future? I’ve been struggling with dating guys and falling for the wrong one fast.
  • Why do I get so emotionally connected quickly? I’m young, and I like to have fun, but my love life is in a famine.
  • Will I be partnered up soon or stay single for a while longer?

Parama received the following information for this Life Reading: Being with a partner is the opportunity to get to know yourself. It is irrelevant whether you are “partnered up” or not – for we are always, ultimately, simply seeing and knowing ourselves through the reflection of the other people in our lives. That is why the nature of relationships is so transitory – and why we suffer so much in the thrall of trying to maintain, mend, or establish relationships. Because we are busy doing so with an attachment to the result: We are attached to getting something, going somewhere, becoming something more – by means of the relationship.

Sometimes we deceive ourselves, believing that the love we feel in our relationship is “all about the other person” — because the other person is this way, or that way — we can love them. This is an illusion. Love is not about the other person. Being “in love” means that we are in love with the reflection of ourselves within the other person. Try entering into a new relationship without any attachments.

Try simply being present with the other person, recognizing that the other person is always and in every way reflecting back some aspect of yourself. If it is “love” you are seeking, then be “love” for yourself. Be totally in love with yourself! This is the secret to a happy, fulfilling relationship – to be fully satisfied and full within oneself first. It is a certain set-up for future suffering and disappointment to go “looking for love” with and through another person.

All the love we seek lies inside of us, eternally, in each and every moment! There is no seeking, only seeing this to be always the case. Sometimes we discover aspects of ourselves that we don’t find lovable. We’re not proud of these parts of ourselves; we hide from them, and we hide them from other people.

This is where honesty and courage find a home in our hearts – when we discover that we truly want to love all of ourselves, and we find ourselves ready to face those shadow parts, those dragons, those skeletons in the closet. Sometimes those are the things we “fall for” in other people, because what we truly want is to encounter and embrace those parts of ourselves! Thus, we discover the magic, the beauty, and the timeless, irresistible quality of falling in love with another person.

We realize that we love another so that we can learn to love ourselves, to see ourselves, to let ourselves be seen, be held, be loved. There is always something valuable to learn from being “emotionally connected”…. This is our natural, wonderful birthright! Simply recognize your connectedness to be a sacred, holy vessel through which you can connect more deeply and more truly with yourself.

Whether you are falling in or out of love, there are always gifts to be opened, treasured, and stored in our memories. There truly is no loss in love, only the opportunity to love again, more deeply, more fully, with less and less attachment to any desired outcomes. There is no love life to be had “out there”…. There is simply always love – perfect and whole – within yourself, to be reflected and expressed through your relationship with another person.

Let go of your anxiety and attempts to “find” this person, and instead, be the love that you seek, let this love be expressed authentically; and the other person will most certainly show up in your life, simply by virtue of the supernatural force of your own heart bursting forth with love.

-End of reading-

I wish you the best on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing. —Parama

Meditate to refresh, renew and rejuvenate

 

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In this request for a Life Reading, a client asked the following questions: 

How can I motivate myself, find happiness internally, when a part of my mind and soul are shattered from post traumatic stress disorder?

How can I stop treating people horribly, especially the ones I love, when all I ever do lately is see their and my own flaws and lose my temper in a millisecond? I never used to be so bitter and mean!

What are some things I can start doing for myself and/or for those around me to help lift the mood, recognize my own beauty and stop taking my past pain out on others?

Parama received the following information for this Life Reading:

Exhaustion seems to be the primary issue that emerges from your years of past mental health struggles. It is important to rest and renew yourself as much as possible and to sleep long hours, even if this means foregoing other activities.

Rest and rejuvenation are your top priorities at this time. You may need to ask a family member to support you, as you may benefit from time off work. Your irritability is a symptom of mental and emotional exhaustion. Pick a day, clear your schedule, and sleep as much as possible. Sleep through the entire day if you can. Use ear plugs and curtains to block out sound and light from entering your bedroom. Ask a friend or family member to prepare meals for you on this day so that you can stay in bed and rest as much as possible.

A kidney/adrenal gland cleanse will help you release built up toxins from years of prescription meds. Consider juice fasts and/or herbal remedies and teas that support kidney/adrenal health. Ask at your local health food store about this. Avoid sugar, fried food, strong spices, and alcohol.

Consider a new circle of friends for socializing. The social circle that feels most comfortable and familiar to you may be perpetuating and reinforcing several of your self-destructive tendencies and habits – negative thought forms being most primary. Surround yourself with people who help you stay focused on positive thoughts.

To release yourself from the pain of the past, you must refresh and renew your present perspective. The past is over, and you do not need to identify with it. A sprout grows into a tree because it doesn’t stay stuck in its seed form, nor does the tree identify with being a seed. It is simply what it is, and the seed was at one time a natural and necessary part of its evolution into a tree. Your past has helped you grow into who you are. With a simple shift in perspective, you can recognize how your past has empowered you to be who you are in the present. Seen from this perspective, there are no mistakes, just perfect growth opportunities.

Anger is a reaction to beliefs, concepts, and points of view. When you feel anger, allow yourself to feel it while at the same time asking yourself, “Who is feeling angry?” Examine yourself. Ask, “What am I believing? What concept(s) am I buying into? What point of view am I identifying with?” Watch the anger fall away as you examine your motivation. Liberate yourself from the struggle by examining what motivates the anger in the first place, and then recognize that it is not you, just a temporary phenomenon that is moving through you, and you are moved by it. Instead of reacting, you become the ever-present observer. You love yourself so much that you gaze deeply inside your own heart and fully feel what is to be felt without possessing it or manipulating it. Negativity falls away and you are left with truth, authenticity, peace, happiness.

Meditate. A lot. In your solitude, discipline your mind to focus on the flow of your breath, self-empowering, loving thoughts, and do not indulge in self-deprecation. Toss out any violent or frightening movies from your collection. Read spiritually themed books that inspire and motivate you toward positive thoughts and behaviors.

Consider a make-over or remodeling of your living space, specifically, your bedroom. Clear out unnecessary or unwanted clutter – this includes old collections that you’ve held onto for posterity – and lighten up the mood with brighter colors and improved lighting. If you can expose yourself to more sunlight, this will greatly benefit you.

Fast from listening to and watching news for days at a time. Tune into your inward voice instead. Listen to relaxing and uplifting music instead of watching TV or movies. Meditate daily. Find a meditation teacher if you haven’t already. Meditate before going to sleep at night. Release your mind from any patterns of negative thought and re-pattern your neural pathways toward an enlightened consciousness. With awareness and focus, you can do this. Practice daily, especially right before you go to sleep. Practice observing your breath – the inflow and the outflow. You will gain patience and concentration.

Rest, rejuvenate, and refresh your perspective. Watch your world change.

-End of reading-

I wish you the best on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing. —Parama

Forgiveness and generosity lead to financial freedom

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Starting again after years of financial strain, healing can be possible through forgiveness and generosity. E— writes, I wish to know when our financial strain will end.  We have been struggling for 15 years.  My husband was unable to work due to a curse placed on him by a former co-worker.  We believe he’s healed and we are starting again.

Parama received the following information for this Life Reading: You should immediately begin planning for early retirement and relocation to a foreign country where the cost of living is much lower. Your overhead is currently too costly and this will continue to put unnecessary strain on your finances. There is an easier, less stressful option for you and your partner at this time.

Look into foreign investments and limit the support you give to family. Take care of yourselves now so that you can enjoy your retirement together without the stress that you’ve been under for these past years. 

What you think was a “curse” is actually a “karmic rebalancing” from a past life where your husband grievously harmed this individual in such a way that he was left destitute and homeless. In this life, your husband has had to “repay that debt” by experiencing his own financial hardship as a result of the influence of this individual. It is important for your husband to actively seek the forgiveness of this person, to make amends, and to forgive him for any wrongdoing.

To harbor resentment or to hold a grudge will only perpetuate your husband’s suffering in the future. It is better to put an immediate end to this negativity through an act of forgiveness. Start by writing an email, then try to met in person with the intention to make amends and move on with your lives. Everyone will feel much better after this is done.

Your husband might consider donating a portion of his current earnings to a chosen charity with the intention to clear the karmic debt that caused his past financial problems. (Note: I am NOT suggesting that you make any donation to me, as this would clearly be a conflict of interest!)…. When you are ready to make your donation, say a prayer (out loud) or write down a prayer on paper that this offering will serve as redemption for any past wrongdoings. Continue to make these donations regularly (monthly or bi-monthly), in combination with your prayer, until you see noticeable improvements in your financial situation (and you will soon, through your generosity).

Be sure not to let yourself get lonely. Now that your husband is busy with work, you find yourself alone a lot and wishing you had more company. Seek the company of friends and family. Join an activity group or social club in your area. Keep yourself occupied and out of negative habits that could affect your ability to make healthy, wise decisions. Now that you have more financial resources available, you must be careful to use them wisely, not spend extravagantly, and invest properly.

Avoid hasty, impulse spending. Instead, take time to research whatever you are thinking about buying before you buy it. Remember that you have a lot of choices and you don’t have to settle for the first thing that comes your way. You don’t have to be in a rush to spend your money.

A family member (close relative) will be asking you and your husband for money. Avoid giving too much. Explain to this person that you and your husband are now planning for retirement and must focus primarily on this. Encourage this person to be more financially independent. By being a good example of wise financial planning, you will help this family member more than if you just handed over your money.

Tend to your health and future happiness. The stress of these past years has taken undue toll on you. Take exercise classes and learn to meditate. Listen to relaxing music while you soak in a bathtub of hot water. The key is to relax as much as you can in the best way you know how. This will become more important in the coming years, since you will need to support your husband in learning how to relax and unwind too. Be an example for him. It won’t help to have two stressed-out people approaching retirement. You will have to lead the charge on a restful, happy retirement together.

Do not delay in looking into investments in a foreign country of your choice. Talk it over with your husband and take a trip at your next available opportunity. You won’t regret it.

Now is the time to do it: You must invest in your future health, well-being, and happiness together. Forgiveness is paramount now. Forgiveness will unlock the door that has blocked your financial freedom.

-End of reading-

I wish you the best and may God bless you on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing. —Parama

Letting tears flow during life transition

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Seeking answers to questions about living alone, how to proceed on my career path, my true life purpose, how to be of service “in my very best”, K— writes,

  • Although it could seem that I am in a major transition, it is actually more that I am stepping fully in my life purpose, which brings changes around and within me.
  • Living alone for the first time in 3 years, feels perfect.
  • Working two different jobs, in customer service to pay my overhead, and my true mission/purpose as an Intuitive Life Coach, which is very powerful and incredibly helpful to my clients.
  • I would like to know what I need to know to proceed further on my path. Financially it scares me the most, although I feel I am supposed to stay at my place, financially it does not seem possible at this moment. Work wise, the work I do in the outer world, to pay my overhead, seems to become more and more disconnected from my true purpose and the work, which also pays me, that I do with people.
  • Basically…is my apartment my place to stay?
  • How much longer do I need to work in customer service to support my true calling?
  • What I can do, do I need to know, in regards to my spiritual work, to walk this path fully and be of service in my very best? Thank you soulfully.

Parama received the following information for this Life Reading:

Keeping up something that you dislike at the expense of focusing on what you really want to do is like a fish trying to live on land. The fish will never belong and will always feel uncomfortable, because it is not inside its native habitat.

Plant your feet right where you want to be, and do what you want to do without moving around so much. You must find a way to live in a comfortable place close enough to your clients so that they can come to your office location. You will benefit from creating your own personal office for your business as a Life Coach.

There is a mentor (you haven’t met yet) who can deepen and hone your skills in this area, so that once your apprenticeship with this person (a female) is complete, you will be able to offer a unique service that only you, with your talents and training, can offer.

Consider your current location: Would it help you to expand your clientele if you moved closer to a metropolitan area? Where you are based at this time may be restricting for you in terms of growing your business so that it is lucrative. Only give up your “side job” once you have considered relocating your base where you are living and working. Network with friends in this area, as they can help you out.

Customer service, even though it is not your mission, is part of your training as a Life Coach. This job is important, for you are learning important skills in how to relate to and communicate honestly with people who are very different from you. There is still a lot to learn in this area. The customer service job will naturally fall away once you begin to grow your Life Coach business, but first you must complete your apprenticeship.

Your mother will try to strongly influence you not to move or make your career focus be Life Coaching. Her fears and concerns are borne of her own beliefs that a person cannot be successful as a self-employed service provider. She is afraid for your financial stability. Let this be her concern, and listen when she expresses her concern, but do not be influenced by her strong desire to dissuade you from what you know you want to do.

Life Coaching is your great talent and gift, but you lack experience in certain areas that your mentor will be able to provide for you by letting you observe her sessions with clients. You will gain wisdom and understanding of effective techniques and processes.

There is an artistic aspect of your personality that must be expressed in your work with clients. Do not suppress it, thinking that somehow it does not belong or would not be well received. Your artistic ability, though it takes on a form that may be unusual and nonconventional, will be very important in your sessions with clients, and you will find yourself attracting a certain kind of client – people who are all seeking the same thing, struggling with similar issues, and you will notice a theme: Capture this and use it in the name of your business. (Do not just call it “Life Coaching”; create a unique name that captures the essence of what only you can do).

Embrace and be open to the transition that is happening around you, for a move is a likely possibility, and you will need to make some adjustments. Be prepared for a shift in the kinds of friends you keep, and the amount of time you spend with friends. While social time has been a balm for you for many years, you are beginning a new phase in your life where socializing is not as important as authentic connection with a select few who support and inspire your mission work, and who will help you to take it to the next level.

You will, in time, become a nationally known leader and trainer in your specialized kind of life coaching. You have the potential to become a world-renowned teacher/trainer with workshops in many different countries. This is why customer service is so important for you at this time, as you will need to know how to manage a lot of people with a lot of different personalities and requests.

Do not be discouraged by how the demands of your customer service job seem to deny you the ability to offer life coaching to clients. Remember, the customer service job is currently part of your training ground to becoming the best life coach you can be … and what better way than to get paid on-the-job training? This is a blessing for you.

Take some time to express yourself artistically and reconnect with the joy and satisfaction this brings you. Be moved to tears if you have to, because when you start to express yourself authentically through your art, you may find yourself feeling pain from the many years of pent-up pressure of trying so hard to suppress your natural expression.

Letting tears flow will be a healthy and helpful release. Make time to be alone and do this when and as you need to.

Consider a change in your wardrobe and hairstyle, especially the colors you wear. Choose hues of blue more often, and consume foods that are blue and purple (naturally, not artificially).

Be open to connecting with a new circle of friends and acquaintances, as this will be necessary for the growth and maturation of your immensely successful new business.

Tend to the care of animals more often. Do you want a pet or pets at home? This could do you great good, to nurture an animal and be loved unconditionally by animals.

-End of reading-

I wish you the best and may God bless you on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing. —Parama  

Personal health and wellness

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Seeking guidance about finding my life partner, how to do my spiritual practice, forgiveness, love, and finding a job: V— writes,

  • Why so far have I not been lucky in finding a life partner?
  • Spiritually I am growing all the time but I cannot find it in myself to meditate. Is there a block?
  • All I want to do is meet my life partner in this life and dedicate my life to helping people in whatever form. That’s when I’m at my happiest. I am tired of the corporate life. Am I being wrong in wanting this?
  • I keep getting signs of me needing to open my Heart Chakra, giving and receiving love, forgive…etc. I have been doing as much as I can. What is the best way to do this? Thank you for this opportunity for help. It’s much appreciated.
  • Right now I am jobless. I need a job because I don’t have money right now. Why is it not happening for me? I have 20 years work experience and skills. I have re-located to another city to take care of my Mom who is recovering from surgery. I am finding it difficult to get a job. What do I need to do to change this?

Parama received the following information for this Life Reading:

In a previous life, your partner brutally murdered you by piercing you in the chest with a knife out of revenge and anger. You can release the karmic effects of this trauma by praying and asking God to cleanse and heal these wounds to your subtle emotional body.

This residual trauma has prevented you in this life from being able to receive love when offered to you by a potential partner, for in the past, this brought you to your death. The best way to cleanse away this negative energy is to participate in a ceremony involving fire, whether in the form of a bonfire (with a pile of old shoes?), a sweat lodge, or a small outdoor fire.

A healthy partnership can only come when one can authentically maintain wellness for oneself, independent of the other partner.

Do you honestly feel that you are keeping yourself well, physically and mentally, in your daily life? Is there a substance or a habit that has become addictive and harmful to your health? Are you prepared to address this and make necessary changes so that you can be healthy? Addictions act as a constant distraction from our equanimity and inner peace.

You want to “help others” …. Be sure to help yourself first and feel honestly that you are on the path to getting healthy and free of harmful addiction.

Details about your work situation and finding a job are not relevant to this reading at this time, as your personal health and wellness are of critical importance. Once you address this, then your external circumstances (including your job) will naturally unfold from there.

-End of reading-

I wish you the best and may God bless you on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing. —Parama

Life with a mission and purpose

 

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S— writes with many questions about her mission and purpose on Earth. 

I am struggling with many things… What should I do/be/achieve in my life?

What is my higher purpose on Earth? Parama received the following information for this Life Reading:

  • Consider whether or not your intimate partner is healthy and supportive for you at this time. Do you feel you are investing more energy into the relationship than you are receiving?
  • Fashion design: especially women’s clothing (dresses in particular)
  • A totem pole in the shape of a large bird, then this totem pole transforms into a live hummingbird, then into a whale
  • Consider studying in Boston.
  • Higher purpose is achieving our full potential through the full expression of our unique talents and gifts. Fulfilling your higher purpose does not have to be this heroic, grandiose achievement. We know we are on the path to achieving our higher purpose when we feel a natural flow in our lives and when we feel joy, pleasure, satisfaction, and contentment. You may be putting undue pressure on yourself by believing that your higher purpose is something so grandiose that you could never achieve it, or that it would be a great struggle to do so. This is simply not so. Your gifts and what you love to do are perfectly suited to allow you to fulfill your life’s purpose, which is what brings you joy and therefore helps bring joy to the people around you.
  • A poodle skirt, followed by this information: Study the patterns and designs that have appeared in women’s dressed throughout different eras, as this will inform and inspire you. Seek to understand why those different patterns and designs were popular at those specific times. There is a psychology behind fashion design and fashion preferences. You have a particularly special knack for recognizing and matching a person or a group of people’s psychologies to their fashion choices.
  • Invest in sketch books and a set of pencils. Learn to sketch. Make drawings of the designs and patterns that come to you when you close your eyes and envision “that perfect dress” for a specific occasion or person. There is potential for you to make a successful career out of doing just this kind of work.
  • Remove yourself from pervasive tribal/social conditioning that would have you believe that you cannot achieve your dreams, in particular, your studies and career goals. Do not hold yourself back by buying into self-deprecating or limiting beliefs. You have special, unique talents, and only you can express these gifts with the rest of the world. Believing in yourself is more important than the opinions of your family and friends about what you should do with your life.
  • Surround yourself and expose yourself to your favorite kind of music and visual arts as much as possible. Seek to be inspired in your creative, expressive self. You can do it.

Thank you for requesting a Life Reading. The following interpretation explains how the information from your reading is significant in your life, as well as how you can apply the information to your everyday life.

In this reading, the symbol of a totem pole in the shape of a bird appeared. A totem pole is a symbol of indigenous peoples’ honoring the ancestral spirits, which are the represented by the birds depicted on the totem pole. A bird travels high in the sky, higher than humans can naturally travel. Higher elevation indicates higher connection with spirituality.

A bird is a being that can ascend to higher spiritual heights. A bird represents freedom to humans. Then, that bird transforms into a living hummingbird. The hummingbird goes from flower to flower very quickly. The hummingbird is a net-worker. It makes contact with many different flowers, which could represent people or points of contact. The hummingbird symbolizes an adept communicator connecting with many people.

A whale is a wisdom keeper. Just as the sky and being high in the sky represents a higher connection with universal truth, so to do the depths of the ocean indicate a deeper connection to the truth. A whale is a being that is immersed in the world of spirit who has the wisdom of knowing what is true. Let’s put these symbols together.

The bird represents freedom from tribal constraints. By “tribal”, I do not refer to the cultural traditions belonging to a particular lineage; I am referring to unquestioned beliefs that your family and associates have held, probably for many generations. These can be negative, limiting beliefs that you can choose to free yourself from in order to express your potential and your life purpose. Freeing yourself from tribal constraints and beliefs is the first symbol.

The next symbol answers the question, “If I am rejecting these limiting tribal values, then what should I embrace next in my life? How should I expand into the world if I am breaking away from tribal values that would otherwise pin me down?” That comes through the hummingbird and the whale.

The hummingbird is an adept communicator. It communicates by having contact with many different things. The hummingbird nourishes itself by having contact with many different flowers. Similarly, you could nourish the expression of your vision by having contact with many people, organizations, or groups. The great number of those contacts will help you to realize your full potential.

If you haven’t already done so, you might want to set up a social media page and actively connect with other people who are interested in the same things as you. For example, you might want to attend events where you can meet other people who are doing the kind of work you are interested in.

Then, we have the whale. The whale would be your connection to a profound connection to spirit. This appears to be what you are seeking: the vision for your life purpose. Whale is a symbol of connecting with spirituality by finding flow in your life.

In summary, you are being invited to break free from the tribal customs and beliefs that have been limiting your success and keeping you bound and beholden to ways of being that are outmoded and outdated for you. Next, be prepared to become active in seeking out lots of connections, friends, supporters, other artists, and resources.

You will have a lot of resources socially, and the richness of your social experience will come from having many contacts rather than just a few. Taking these two steps will then put you in a position to connect with the flow of a deep well of spiritual understanding.

-End of reading-

I wish you blessings on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing.—Parama  

Connecting with nature to regain balance and feel joy

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This reader requested a Life Reading to address how he has been feeling lack of joy in his life, a sense of physical and mental imabalance, low energy, and a sense of wanting to define his life purpose.  He writes,

  • What can I do in order to feel more joy in my life?
  • What should I do with my life?
  • I’m feeling totally lost, almost as if I lack the feeling of being a part of a greater purpose.
  • I also wonder about my health. I’ve been going for a few general check-ups, but all seems okay. I’m feeling tired and lack energy most of the time.

The following symbols, images, and other information appeared to Parama in this Life Reading:

  1. The bottom of a foot
  2. A tuning fork
  3. The message, “Go to a chalet in Switzerland”
  4. An image of a succession of people handing down hereditary information in a generational line
  5. The insight that you heard or witnessed a traumatic event while you were young
  6. The following message, “Become a ski instructor. Teach groups of kids how to ski.”
  7. The instruction to sit and observe
  8. The following instruction, “Set boundaries around what you are listening to.” The image that accompanied this instruction was of an ear canal leading to the core of the brain.
  9. The following message, “You move so fast, you don’t give people a chance to see who you are.”
  10. The instruction to walk on rocks
  11. The instruction or guidance to spend less time in the gym and more time lifting heavy things in nature
  12. The guidance to find a job that doesn’t require a lot of driving
  13. The guidance to find a job you can walk to
  14. The guidance to eat root vegetables, such as turnips, carrots, and beets
  15. The message, “Outdoor sports”
  16. An image of a person whose lower body was in the shape of a funnel with energy going down and out the funnel
  17. The phrase, “Kids’ coach”
  18. The following phrase, “Life is so much more than struggling to keep your head above water.”
  19. The following phrase, “Let go of things needing to be a struggle.”
  20. The following guidance: “Putting energy and attention to one area of your life doesn’t have to be at the expense of other areas. Life is a holistic balance. When you improve one area, all others improve equally.”

The following interpretation explains each of these symbols, their meanings, and how this information can be applied in everyday life: Dear Loved One, This reading covers a few general categories. One category this reading addresses is guidance for changes you can make in your daily life: how you live, how you eat, how you work, and what you spend much of your daily time doing. Guidance for changing the outward conditions of your daily life is one category for this reading. A second category that this reading covers is some information about what your underlying needs are at this time and some of the reasons for the physical, mental imbalance, lack of joy, and low energy you’re experiencing. The third category that comes through in this reading is for guidance and encouragement for you to do specific things that will provide healing and can potentially open doors for you in making the kinds of life changes that are healthy for you at this time.

Let’s look at symbol number one, the bottom of a foot. The foot is where your body connects with the earth. The Garifuna, a traditional culture that lives in the area where we now live, believes that the sole of the foot is the actual location of the soul, and that they body connects with the soul through the sole of the foot. The foot is not only the way that the individual connects with the earth, but the sole itself is a symbol of being grounded, being solid, and having a connection with the earth and with all the energy and resources that you need in order to be happy, healthy, and whole.  This is a primary message in your life reading. You are being shown that a major cause of the lack of joy and the physical and mental imbalance, and to some extent, the low energy that you’re feeling is due to a weak connection with the earth and the earth’s energetic field. This is something that you can correct with not much effort, fortunately, and in the following symbols, we will explore how you are specifically being guided as to how you can do that.

The next symbol in the reading is a tuning fork. A tuning fork is used to tune a musical instrument so that it vibrates on the right frequencies and produces harmonious tones when played. Another aspect of what you are being guided to do in general at this time is to tune your life. You are going to bring your life in tune with what your highest guidance sees as your optimal expresssion of your life experience.

Next, we have symbol number three: the statement, “Go to a chalet in Switzerland.” A chalet seems like a good place for you to be, because it could provide you a combination of things that would be very helpful for you at this time. Let’s go to those connecting symbols right now. Symbol number six, the guidance, “Become a ski instructor. Teach groups of kids how to ski.”

Number seven: “Sit and observe.” Number eight: “Set boundaries around what you’re willing to listen to.” Number eleven: “Spend less time in the gym and more time lifting heavy things in nature.” Number twelve: “Find a job that doesn’t require a lot of driving.” Number thirteen: “Find a job you can walk to.” Number fifteen, “Outdoor sports.”

Number seventeen: “Kids’ coach.” And number twenty, “Life is a holistic balance. When you improve one area, all others improve equally.” Our sense is that going to a chalet in Switzerland can help you to make a lot of progress in all of these areas. It sounds from the information in your reading like you are spending a considerable amount of time driving in your car, going to a work situation that fulfills your physical needs but does nothing for your soul, that leaves you feeling disconnected from the earth, where you experience winding up your days feeling physically exhausted and emotionally drained, and sort of looking out the window wondering if there’s more to life  and how on earth you could access that.

The guidance indicates that you would do well to make some radical changes in your life. One of these would be about the way your support yourself, how you make a living. Generally, you’ll benefit from being outdoors rather than inside a building wherever you work. You will benefit from having contact with nature. You will benefit from an environment where you will be drawn toward falling into synch with the rhythms of nature rather than the higher paced, artificial rhythms of man.

A chalet in Switzerland could potentially provide you a work opportunity combined with a living situation that will put you in closer contact with nature. It will take you out of needing to be in your car a lot to go to your job, and it will help you to address the low energy that you have been feeling. We want to help you get your feet on the ground more so that you are in direct contact with the earth. Now, this doesn’t mean that if there is a meter of snow on the ground, that you are walking around barefoot. It means that you are feeling the fresh air, you are directly looking upon mountains and natural feature, and yes, when you can, you are in direct contact with the ground and things from nature.

Eating root vegetables will help as well. Take stock of what root vegetables are available fresh in the area where you live, and I’d encourage you, in place of eating out or eating processed foot at home, go to the market and get a few pounds of root vegetables, like beets, rutebagas , turnips, parsnips, carrots, yucca root, whatever is growing in your area that is available. Take them home, boil them up, and make a delicious vegetable soup. You can eat the cooked vegetables and drink the broth that they are in. This in itself with help you ground, connect with the earth, build up personal energy, and feel more grounded and stable.

I’d especially encourage you to try cooking a pot where you allow the flavor of the root vegetables themselves to come through. You can add a little bit of salt, but try eating the soup with a minimum of strong flavoring ingredients. This is part of the strategy to get you to connect with the earth more. By eating root vegetables, that is a strategy to connect with the earth through your diet.

There is also the guidance to walk on rocks. This is something that you can do as an exercise: Find a natural area near where you live, and it will be important for you to allow yourself the luxury of spending some time alone in nature. I am talking about unstructured time. I am talking about time other than skiing, or teaching skiing, or going on an organized hike. I am talking about time where you can just be in nature one-on-one with the earth, where you can actually feel and connect with the earth.

Create a time and place when you can be out in nature and during that time, I would like for you to remove all your footwear, and simply spend some time walking slowly and gently over rocks. They can be pebbles, they can be medium size rocks, or they can be larger rocks. Just allow yourself to feel the surface, the texture, and the temperature of the rocks on your bare feet. This is an experience that will help you to connect your soul with the earth and to harmonize your internal process with the rhythms of the earth. This will help you to regain the balance that you are seeking.

Why is it important for you to seek balance in your life at this time? Your reading indicates that you bore witness to a traumatic event when you were young. Whether you have any recall of a traumatic experience from your youth or not is of no importance. Bearing witness to a traumatic event as a child is energetically similar to being uprooted, being disconnected from your normal, healthy source of life and sustenance. Helping to bring you back in balance is the guidance in this reading, to connect with nature and give yourself more opportunities to have more direct contact with nature.

Symbol number seven is the guidance to sit and observe. I’d like for you to imagine yourself being outside alone in nature in a tranquil place that you find pleasant. I’d like for you to imagine yourself barefoot, seated directly on the ground, either on some grass or maybe on some rocks. Flowing water is nearby; you can hear it trickling, and you are simply sitting there. All of your senses are open and aware to the subtle wonders of nature. Imagine yourself simply being there with the elements in nature, with no need to follow a clock, no need to do anything, no need to account for what you’ve been doing. Simply to be there.

I’d like for you to put this vision in motion by taking the time to go out and be in nature like I’ve described. This will help to elevate your energy and improve your physical and mental balance. In subtle ways, it will also inform filling yourself with joy and connecting with your life purpose. It is through direct contact with nature that we become clear to the subtle guidance we are receiving from the divine source that intelligently guides all life. Now, let’s turn to what you can do in the company of others when you are in social situations. What can you do that will help you achieve your stated goals?

Symbol number eight is the guidance to set boundaries around what you are willing to listen to, with an image of the ear canal leading to the core of the brain. This symbol is directly connected with symbol number sixteen: A person with a lower body in the shape of a funnel with energy going out. You’ve been allowing yourself to be a sort of dumping ground for emotional toxicity for people. You’ve been allowing people to vent their anger and frustrations in your presence, which is in itself not a bad thing if done in moderation and with respect for your own energetic needs and your ability to receive. However, the symbols indicate that you have been receiving this kind of emotional negativity in a way that enervates you rather than lends you support in building your skills as a pillar within your community.

The reading indicates that you are holding a couple of beliefs that would further enervate you during the course of your daily life. Symbol number eighteen: “Life is so much more than keeping your head above water.” Symbol nineteen, “Let go of things needing to be a struggle.”

Symbol twenty: “Putting energy and attention to one area of your life doesn’t have to be at the expense of other areas. Life is a holistic balance. When you improve one area, all others improve equally.” People in the industrialized world have been taught from birth that they can expect life to be a struggle. They have to work in jobs that they don’t like to get money that they have to exchange for basic things they need in order to live. Industrialized people have been taught collectively that life is a struggle and that it has to be a struggle. You are being encouraged to break free from this cultural programming. You are free to set your own values and find your own way in this life. You don’t have to buy into the general misconceptions of those in your family and those in your community.

The reading is indicating that you should consider a career move and or adding extra-curricular activities that would put you in contact with nature an be in a mentor role. We received the messages, “Outdoor sports” and “Kids’ coach,” along with symbols twelve and thirteen: “Find a job you can walk to. … A job that doesn’t require a lot of driving.” Symbol number six: “Become a ski instructor. Teach groups of kids how to ski.” I’d encourage you to follow up on the ski instructor guidance. Why not look up the chalets near where you live? Maybe you could take a visit to one and check out the programs they have to offer. I think you could find a place where you would enjoy working there, being in a mentor role, being outside in nature, and meeting all of your material needs by having a job that you feel good about that contrubutes to your health.

Symbol number nine: “You move so fast, you don’t give people a chance to see who you are.” The modern industrial lifestyle encourages people to move so fast, that they don’t have the resources needed to form strong, healthy relationships with the other humans in their communities. We believe that this is an intentional part of the design of industrial life that undermines the ability for people to have strong social connections, so they are more dependent on a large, centralized operation for their basic survival.

You are being guided in this reading to go against that dysfunctional social programming by taking opportunities to slow down. Do not be afraid to let people discover who you are by being in contact with them. Give people an opportunity to know you. Give people an opportunity to reflect on what you have to say. Give yourself an opportunity to reflect on what others have to say. Spending some unstructured time in nature, as I have recommended, will actually help to prepare you to listen and to be more present for people in social settings.

Symbol number four: A succession of people who are passing down the same traits to each new successive generation. In addition to having witnessed a traumatic event while young, the reading indicates that you have also inherited the disposition to be encountering the challenges you are facing right now: Something has come to you from your family line that makes these challenges part of what you’re here to work on in this lifetime. It’s helpful for you to be aware of this at this time.

In summary, your life doesn’t need to be a struggle. You can become a living example of balance in body, mind and spirit — a living example of physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health — by following the guidance that we have discussed. You can find a more balanced, healthy, and peaceful life by honoring your connection with the earth, by finding a meaningful way to perform your work activities that puts you in direct contact with nature, by activating your capacity to lead and to be a mentor, and by giving yourself a chance to be seen.

-End of Life Reading-

Blessings to you on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing.  –Parama

Overcoming obstacles to put your life, house, and relationships in order

dragon fly and lily

This reader requested a Life Reading to answer urgent questions about relationship, spirituality, and how to earn money:

  • What would you recommend I need to change or do so I can find a good relationship?
  • I am currently starting to move more quickly in the right spiritual direction. Any advice on what I should focus on the most so I don’t get misled off the right path?
  • Do you have any advice on what I need to do or how I can remove my karmic debt, as I seem to be experiencing problem after problem and finding it difficult to make and keep money?

Parama received the following symbols and phrases in this reading:

  • A racer tilted forward on the saddle of a racehorse on the racetrack (a static image, not a moving image)
  • Sled dogs pulling a sled
  • A downhill skier racing down a steep slope
  • A fully blossomed lily
  • A dragon fly
  • A wagon with a hitch not hitched to anything
  • A quill pen resting in an ink well
  • “Write your partner a letter in your own handwriting.”
  • “Listen when people talk to you. Really think about what they’ve said before you respond.”
  • The opening scene (when the curtains part for the first time) of a live theater performance in a spacious theater with red velvet curtains
  • “Take your partner to a live theater performance in a fancy theater.”
  • “Adopt a puppy and learn to train it. This will be an important lesson in waiting to get your partner pregnant until you’re ready.”
  • “We are very pleased that you are on the path. Remember there is always higher to go, higher to look. Don’t settle for what is comfortable.”
  • “Invest in a new camera with better resolution.”
  • “Create cleanliness and organization in your home, especially your bedroom.”
  • “Put plants in your house.”
  • “Surround yourself with nature.”
  • “Find something to hitch your wagon to.”

The following interpretation explains each of these symbols, their meanings, and how this information can be applied in everyday life:

Thank you for requesting a Life Reading. It looks like you’ve been taking actions to move your life in a more positive direction. This reading will help you focus those actions so that you can more readily accomplish your goals and be on track for the next set of spiritual lessons that you are ready for.

A racer tilted forward on the saddle of a racehorse on the racetrack This indicates the idea of forward action but not actual forward action. So there are ideas forming in your mind of how you can progress in your life and do what you need to do, but right now they’re really just ideas. The symbol is indicating that you are going to need to pick something and “make it real”. The action that you have to take is like going from a photograph of a horse jockey to being on an actual racehorse in a race. You have the concept. You have some right ideas that will work for you. Now you need to go and do them.

Sled dogs pulling a sled Sled dogs are a symbol of working together as a team. Also, secondarily, “over a long haul”. This symbol addresses all three of your questions. You are going to need to discover how to work as part of a team that actually works together, sometimes very closely, to get things done.

A downhill skier racing down a steep slope This symbol is about being focused and deliberate in what you do. A downhill skier in motion is focused and deliberate and completely in the action. It’s not conceptual; it’s the natural result of being in step with your intentions and the results that come from alignment with your intentions and your actions.

A fully blossomed lily A lily derives its nutrients from muddy standing water. The lily is a symbol of taking your inner spiritual work and transforming it into a full, beauteous, unique expression of your gifts. This symbol indicates that the struggles that you have been going through and are going through now are raw materials for a full expression of your true gifts to come. The way to look at your struggles is that they are nourishing you deep down, that you may grow and form the fullest expression of your unique gifts, so that your unique gifts are “in full flower”.

“Invest in a new camera with better resolution.” This can be taken both as a specific instruction (find and buy a new camera) and as a symbolic message. In order to be the kind of team player that you are being called on in order to realize your ambitions, you are going to need to invest energy and awareness in becoming more sensitive to the emotional nuances in the environments in which you live and work. The way to do this right now is to “Listen when people talk to you. Really think about what they’ve said before you respond.” You’ve been attempting to fill all the spaces, and it doesn’t work. This is reflected in the clutter in your house and the seeming difficulty in being where you want to be as far as relationships go.

A dragonfly The symbol indicates that you are being gently summoned to become more aware of your spirituality. “Create cleanliness and organization in your home, especially your bedroom.” View cleaning clutter as a spiritual exercise – an exercise in discovering what is truly important to you. If you can, enlist the help of someone else to help you follow through with this. For example, you might tell a friend that you have set a stretch goal for yourself to clean and organize your bedroom by this day next week. Pick a date by which you can do it, then have your friend follow up with you on that day to make sure that you’re doing it and hold you accountable if you don’t follow through.

“Put plants in your house.” Plants are protectors. Not only can they help clean your environment in your home, but they will also absorb some of the impact from unhelpful energies that may be directed toward you. Plants will brighten up your house, help you feel more in connection with nature, and will ground you in a regular “devotional practice” of watering and caring for your plants.

“Surround yourself with nature.” In addition to bringing live plants into your home, make it a point to go out and be in natural places that you enjoy.

A wagon with a hitch not hitched to anything. “Find something to hitch your wagon to.” You seem to have good ideas and the ability to follow through with them, but you lack direction. Your guides are happy that you are embracing the spiritual path more in your life. One of the things that your spiritual awakening can help you realize is a good and fulfilling focus for your life.

A quill pen resting in an ink well “Write your partner a letter in your own handwriting.” You know whom this is meant for. Write from the heart rather than attempting to promote yourself. Share with your partner what you would really like. Don’t seek anything specific from your partner in this letter. Just say what you would like to have in your life. The more straightforward and personal, the better. This is not the place for romantic sonnets or entreaties for love. Keep it real and honest.

“Listen when people talk to you. Really think about what they’ve said before you respond.” You will get better at this with practice. Try it out the next time you are at a social gathering. When you go to a gathering to practice this, make it a point to remain silent longer than you normally would and let the other person talk more. Let them keep going. Don’t jump in and say anything. Watch what happens.

The opening scene (when the curtains part for first time) of a live theater performance in a spacious theater with red velvet curtains “Take your partner to a live theater performance in a fancy theater.” “Adopt a puppy and learn to train it. This will be an important lesson in waiting to get your partner pregnant until you’re ready.” Perhaps you’ve been thinking that somehow having a child with your partner will “cement” things. It is an awesome responsibility to bring new life onto the planet. The culture you find yourself in pays little respect to the importance of parenting a child with the intention to support and raise that child to maturity. These shared cultural values are not working out so well for anyone, even the parents who seem to “get off scot free.” If you are truly interested in having a child, take the initial step of bringing a puppy into your life. Get a young pup that has just finished weaning and needs to be trained in everything, including being housebroken, what to chew on and what not to chew on, not to bite people, how to walk on a leash, responding to commands and hand signals, etc. If after five or six months of training and caring for your puppy, you still have the desire to have a child, you will do so having some small indication of the level of commitment it will take to bring another human being into this world with strength and with love.

“We are very pleased that you are on the path. Remember there is always higher to go, higher to look. Don’t settle for what is comfortable.” Once you have mastered the set of lessons before you, the next set of lessons will appear. There is never an “end” to the spiritual path. Whenever you feel as though you have mastered the present set of teachings and life seems to be going well, know that a new set of teachings will soon appear and that what you found comfortable will now become the starting point for a new threshold of spiritual realization for you.

-End of interpretation-

Blessings to you on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing.  –Parama

Why we suffer and how to stop it

Photo credit: ascensionearth2012.org

Photo credit: ascensionearth2012.org

Earth is a well loved place. Ascended beings send beams of light from all directions onto the planet to create a shield of protection and a constant source of loving, healing energy.

It is well known that Earth is a difficult place to be. Humans have chosen to come here to “experience themselves”, to individuate, and in so doing, to forget their inherent oneness with all of creation. Under the illusion of separation, humans are subjected to lifetimes of suffering, until finally they once again realize their oneness with all of creation.

It is no small feat to have incarnated as a human on Earth. To be human is a post that is highly respected by beings of light and coveted by beings of darkness who would seek to enjoy the worldly pleasures that only humans can experience.

The ascended beings respect and love us because they recognize our suffering. They see how we are trapped in a world of duality and must struggle through lifetimes of incarnations before we can enter the heavenly realms. They know that although we once made the choice to come here, we are now lost in amnesia. This is why they have such deep love, respect and compassion for us.

The beings of light know that humans are limited by their own forgetfulness and are forced to enjoy only what worldly pleasures can bring. Yet the ascended masters know that there is so much more to be experienced and that material enjoyment is but a drop in the eternal sea of endless bliss that is all of creation.

We truly are made in the image of God. In other words, we have the potential for perfection: perfect love, perfect knowledge, perfect bodies, a perfect world. Yet in our state of drunken stupor with temporary material pleasures, we are forced to experience all manner of suffering, so long as we keep choosing to lord it over this material world. We suffer because we seek to enjoy only for ourselves. We forget about others – all the other beings who are also made in the image of God. We are forced to see all those other people as a reflection of how we see ourselves, which is a projection based on what we have done, what we have said, and what we have thought about up till now.

And so we go on planting the seeds for how we perceive ourselves, how we perceive others, and how we perceive the world around us by our very actions, words and thoughts. As humans, we can choose to plant seeds of our own suffering, or we can choose to plant seeds of our own happiness.

That we have access to such a myriad of choices and a range of dualistic experiences commands great respect and deep compassion from beings of light who watch over us. They are a constant loving presence to bear witness to our activities.

To awaken is to remember and reconnect with our inherent potential for divine perfection. To awaken is to remember that we did not come here for selfish enjoyment: We are here to help each other stop suffering.

Imagine a world where each person’s only concern is to make the other person happy, where everyone goes out of their way to provide for the needs of the people around them. Wouldn’t that be something we could call paradise? Heaven: a place where only God would live. Precisely.

To awaken is to realize oneself to be such a perfect reflection of God that there is no difference between oneself and God. In a perfect world, how could there be any separation of perfect oneness into parts of a whole?