Honor your unique gifts, regardless of what others think

bird-singing copyM— writes,

I am feeling very depressed. I recently had surgery and I’m doing okay. However, I feel emptiness and anxiety. I have studied with a medium for 15 years. She recently passed away. I feel I did not progress enough. I need guidance.

Dear M—,

Patterns of behavior have a way of repeating themselves to solidify into a nexus of self-destructive beliefs and concepts that originate from a desire for belonging, approval, and acceptance within a sociocultural context.

We are a collective of angelic beings who protect and guide humanity on a course of evolution that has always and will always continue by the grace of the One Creator in All whose unconditional, loving presence is the prime directive for all life to proceed onward in evolutionary upgrades to higher and higher frequencies of energy.

Avoid negativity, dearest one. Surround yourself with people who support and nurture you in your fullness—people who inspire and uplift you. When you set this mindful intention in your life to be uplifted by your surroundings and the company you keep, you will find that your social circles change: old friends vanish, and new ones appear, seemingly out of nowhere; to help you, to show you something new, to awaken something within you…. Be open and receptive to the blessing of new people coming into your life.

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You must try going to new places where you’ve been reluctant to go before, while you’ve been locked into a routine that has become dull and stifling to you. This includes restaurants, music performances, church social events, exercise classes, and cultural events. Be on the lookout for notices about these happenings in your area, and we could also encourage you to consider traveling to a foreign country—Have you considered the islands of Crete?—for rest, renewal, and spiritual connection. Blessings await you there.

As for your previous “studies with a medium”, it is clear that you are a medium, and you must cultivate your special gift. Why are you afraid of it? …because of how others will react? …what they will think? …how the religious authorities would condemn and admonish you?

Ask yourself: Do you want to live your life for someone else, to fulfill other peoples’ standards and expectations, or do you want to live your life fully as who you are, regardless of what the people around you want you to be?

For years you’ve compromised an important and powerful gift that has been given to you by God to help many people. We recognize that mediumship has been vilified and ill reputed. We find this to be a misfortune for humanity. Mediums can serve as tools of God for humanity’s uplifting at this time, a gift that can only be received by highly attuned, sensitive people like yourself—a gift that must be treasured, nurtured, cultivated.

Be brave, dear one—and find the company of friends and places where you can comfortably immerse yourself in a deepening of your studies.

There’s no conflict of interest between being a medium and worshiping God in whatever way you’ve embraced in your life. Ignore the negativity from those who fear that which they do not understand. Trust yourself, and honor yourself.

Consider spending more time watching videos of people who inspire you and whom you admire in your chosen field of study. You seek to progress in your understanding and practice. It appears there will be a special retreat on the Island of Crete where you will discover much in the way of renewed insights, inspiration, and deeper understanding.

Pay more attention to how you communicate with your immediate family members, especially your husband. There are patterns you’ve fallen into that negate your wholeness and beauty. When he speaks to you negatively, try ignoring or deflecting his comments by focusing on the positive. Smile more (even if you have to fake it). The point is this: Avoid engaging him in a downward spiral of negativity that leaves you both feeling drained and discouraged.

An attitude of “I only accept love in my life” might be a good place to start—to hold this intention in your heart and carry it with you throughout your daily activities, including your interactions with close family members.

mother and baby birdThere seems to be ongoing tension and struggle with your oldest son. Is this true? A battle of the wills has been ensuing…. Consider how he could feel that you don’t trust him. He has reached an age where he needs to assert his independence and withdraw from needing you to direct and assist him.

Can you let go more and grant him the opportunity to grow? It’s like a baby bird learning to fly: Momma has to push the baby out of the nest and watch him struggle as he tries to fly. He may not be so good at it, at first. That’s okay. He needs to learn to use his own wings and not depend on yours.

You’ve been an excellent, nurturing mother. We want you to release yourself from believing that you haven’t been good enough. You’ve done everything you can and your love is pure. Trust the love you feel for yourself, your family, for God, from God.

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Are you singing enough? There was a time when you lifted your voice up to God in heartfelt worship and praise…but not enough lately. Find music you can sing to… Play the music… loudly if you have to… and sing. Sing! Like a bird.

No shame in using your voice for what it is designed to do—express your heart.

We are proud and happy for you in this new growth that you will discover as you bravely try new activities, find new friends, communicate lovingly, and honor your God-given gifts.

 

Blessings upon you, lovely harbinger of playful, melodious birdsong. Sing! …and soar as high as you want to go!

-End of Life Reading-

I wish you blessings on your life’s journey. Thank you. —Parama

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About the Author

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Parama K. Williams, MA, LMT, CYT is a published author with a Master of Arts in Education and fifteen years of international experience as a U.S.-Certified/Licensed Massage Therapist and Yoga Teacher. She is an avid practitioner of yoga and meditation.

As the author of Ascended Master Readings, she provides Life Readings to help people find solutions to everyday challenges and to discover their unique life’s mission.

Parama offers therapeutic massage and yoga classes internationally. She currently lives in Central America, where she writes, travels, and offers ongoing classes, workshops, and retreats. 

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Finding peace after the loss of a family member

V— requests a Life Reading, seeking guidance and insights to many questions about personal wellness, marriage, spirituality, and life’s purpose:

birdMy son passed away last year. I’ve had some deep insights into my spirituality and some real indicators to our connectedness to the other side of the veil—an awakening, perhaps.

Why am I so unbelievably exhausted and unmotivated? The exhaustion seems to be getting much worse. Medical tests show that everything is normal. How do I fix this?

I have since had shamanism presented to me numerous times, although I have resisted. I am having trouble finding help on this new path. I feel like I am adrift.

Is this the path meant for me? Will I find a mentor?

And why can’t I seem to find my spirit guides? … Or, have I found them, and I just don’t know it?

I see so many images when I meditate, but I can’t seem to make sense of them all. Even when I’m not meditating; for example, just closing my eyes during emotional moments, I still see images. (I swear, I’m not crazy!)

What am I supposed to do with my life? How do I make my time here on earth meaningful? What’s my purpose, and how do I find the energy to pursue it?

How do I find joy in life again? Everything that’s going on in the world seems too overwhelming. So many bad things are happening…. I sometimes feel nauseous hearing about it on TV or social media, to the point where I’ve stopped watching the news…. I’m seriously considering shutting down my Facebook account. It’s really sickening and heartbreaking—all this hate in the world.

My husband is…. a difficult person. Although, I’m sure I’m difficult too. Am I being selfish when I think about leaving him, or should I just suck it up and try harder? Is this relationship my life lesson in patience and compassion? Is it more honorable to stay together?

In the past, I was intuitive and good at seeing the big picture, but now, I can’t see the forest for all the trees. I used to be really confident and grounded when I was younger, but now, I just feel so off kilter.

What is happening to me?

Life Reading by Parama

wolfYour son’s death has left a void in your external world, but you still feel him on the inner plane. Connections can never be lost.

“Daddy, Mommy,” your son says, “I know you miss me, but I had to leave. It was my time to go. Some people get a whole lifetime—I only got twelve years. I learned what I needed to learn, and you taught me well. I know you wanted to save me, but it was my time to go.

“Please let me go. I want to move on, too. But I can’t, because you are holding on so tight to your guilt – wishing you could have saved me.

“Let me fly! I want to fly. When you look up and see a bird with its wings outstretched, hovering above you, you’ll know it’s a sign from my spirit, having united with the Almighty One God.

“Remember me, but let me go—let me fly—let me be free and live forever in your hearts. Mommy, Daddy—one day we will reunite. I know, because the angels tell me so. And we will be happy together, forever with God.

“Take down my bedroom, my play toys, the favorite truck of mine that always makes you cry, and please, for my sake, give it away to a charity so that some other child can play the way I once did. This will please me, bring me joy, and help set our spirits free.

“Please… I want to see you happy again. I want to see you play together the way you used to play with me.

“You can’t make me come back, but you can be happy now. You have each other, and that’s a gift from God. I’ll never forget you, … ever, ever.”

The spirit of the wolf walks with you and protects you. The wolf is a fierce guardian of what you hold dear. Ask for protection and guidance from God, and then close your eyes, listen, and pay attention. A wolf—a guardian spirit gifted to you from God—is a fearless, loyal, dedicated provider and protector for you, especially as you consider bringing another child into your family. You will know when you are ready.

An unhealthy substance addiction has sapped you of energy and consumed your creativity. Seek support to free yourself from these chains. Ask God to help you…. Cry out if you must.

Have you let yourself cry over the loss of your son?

Find a loving, supportive friend from your local community whom you trust. You’ve known this person a long time, and she has great wisdom and a deep understanding of who you are. Ask her to listen to you talk about your substance addiction. Receive her unconditional love and support. Rely on her whenever you feel tempted to indulge.

Drowning out the pain cannot make it go away. Denial can only amplify your pain, until it consumes you—all of you. Will you let this happen? You don’t want to feel your pain, so you have found a way to justify your addiction, as if you were entitled to indulge in self-destructive behaviors.

This is extremely taxing to your nervous system, throws your hormones off balance, and exhausts you.

The time has come to fervently—Start now—seek healthy outlets to vent your emotions, which you’ve managed with great effort to stuff deep inside of yourself.

Using your chosen art medium, capture the images you see in meditation or when your eyes are closed. Give the images your own expression: Give them a voice, a shape, and free them from being trapped inside of you.

A new dance can only begin when you’re willing—and ready—to let go of whatever’s holding you back, get up, and embrace your dance partner.

people-dancing-silhouette-icon-25When you first met your partner, you used to dance, play, and explore together. You’ve stopped taking the time to enjoy being together.

Ask God to renew and rebuild your life. Regenerate yourself and your relationship through God’s love and your love for each other. You can do this. What seems to be “difficult” about your relationship will transform as you express yourself more and more.

Unburden yourself from guilt.

Rely on trustworthy friends to help you. Don’t expect your partner to fulfill your needs for support. It’s too much right now. If you build a solid support network for yourself outside of your primary partnership, then over time, you will find that your marriage improves, your perceptions change, and you will be able to enjoy life together, as you once did.

Be patient in your relationship, and do your fair share. You’ve both been struggling, so do not add more burden by expecting the other person to save you from your pain. You must do this work for yourself, in your own heart, with the help of God and your trusted support network.

Have you and your partner considered building a new house or an addition to your house? This could be helpful for you to do together: a collaborative project, creating something new together.

dust-devil-vs-tall-bike-burning-man-2010Consider a vacation getaway with your partner soon. This will help you find new perspectives, as well as giving you needed time alone together. You’ve been vying for many peoples’ attention in personal and professional matters, leaving you little energy to focus on each other’s needs.

Don’t let other people compete for your attention: You must choose where and to whom you will give your attention. Start with yourself and God.

You have done well to maintain professionalism and commendable performance at work. Continue to apply yourself in your craft, for your work serves as an outlet for your creativity—a means by which you can reconnect with your joy … You must ask for this…. You must make the necessary adjustments in your work routines, schedules, and workspace to allow for uncensored, raw, unlimited self-expression.

You’ve been holding back too much, denying yourself the opportunity to unleash your passion in your life, because you fear rejection or judgment from others. Ask yourself, “Is this worth it? What do I gain by giving into my fears that others will judge me?”

bikeA new bicycle awaits you and needs repair. Start there. Design the bike according to your own specifications and paint it however you desire. Let the bike be a metaphor for your own body…. Build yourself a new body, a renewal in the spirit of God’s love, in self-love.

Love yourself as God loves you, and do not deny yourself the blessing of joy and lightheartedness! When is the last time you had a cathartic belly laugh with friends over some hilarious joke, a story… a movie? Seek out the opportunity to laugh more! Watch funny YouTube videos if you must—anything to get your body convulsing in fits of laughter!

Whether alone or with trusted friends, your laughter will bring you to tears…. will lead you to anger… will open the door for forgiveness… and will, finally, give you peace.

By the time you parade your new, decked-out bicycle through the streets of your summertime celebration, you will be ready to meet a special person who will become a teacher and mentor for your spiritual path.

Look out for signposts pointing the way.

Of course, you will know when you have met your teacher, who will appear at first to be a “nobody” (almost invisible), but as soon as you engage in a conversation, his words will speak to your heart. You will feel refreshed in his company, enlivened by his energy, and inspired by his example.

Life has many twists and turns. One thing leads to another. Nothing is ever lost—not even the people who’ve come into our lives for some time, then gone away.

We are all precious pearls on the same string, coiling and spiraling itself through space, keeping us eternally connected through the unconditional, divine, perfect love of our One Creator, the One God who knows all. Trust in this always.

-End of Life Reading-

I wish you blessings on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing. —Parama

Forgiveness and generosity lead to financial freedom

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Starting again after years of financial strain, healing can be possible through forgiveness and generosity. E— writes, I wish to know when our financial strain will end.  We have been struggling for 15 years.  My husband was unable to work due to a curse placed on him by a former co-worker.  We believe he’s healed and we are starting again.

Parama received the following information for this Life Reading: You should immediately begin planning for early retirement and relocation to a foreign country where the cost of living is much lower. Your overhead is currently too costly and this will continue to put unnecessary strain on your finances. There is an easier, less stressful option for you and your partner at this time.

Look into foreign investments and limit the support you give to family. Take care of yourselves now so that you can enjoy your retirement together without the stress that you’ve been under for these past years. 

What you think was a “curse” is actually a “karmic rebalancing” from a past life where your husband grievously harmed this individual in such a way that he was left destitute and homeless. In this life, your husband has had to “repay that debt” by experiencing his own financial hardship as a result of the influence of this individual. It is important for your husband to actively seek the forgiveness of this person, to make amends, and to forgive him for any wrongdoing.

To harbor resentment or to hold a grudge will only perpetuate your husband’s suffering in the future. It is better to put an immediate end to this negativity through an act of forgiveness. Start by writing an email, then try to met in person with the intention to make amends and move on with your lives. Everyone will feel much better after this is done.

Your husband might consider donating a portion of his current earnings to a chosen charity with the intention to clear the karmic debt that caused his past financial problems. (Note: I am NOT suggesting that you make any donation to me, as this would clearly be a conflict of interest!)…. When you are ready to make your donation, say a prayer (out loud) or write down a prayer on paper that this offering will serve as redemption for any past wrongdoings. Continue to make these donations regularly (monthly or bi-monthly), in combination with your prayer, until you see noticeable improvements in your financial situation (and you will soon, through your generosity).

Be sure not to let yourself get lonely. Now that your husband is busy with work, you find yourself alone a lot and wishing you had more company. Seek the company of friends and family. Join an activity group or social club in your area. Keep yourself occupied and out of negative habits that could affect your ability to make healthy, wise decisions. Now that you have more financial resources available, you must be careful to use them wisely, not spend extravagantly, and invest properly.

Avoid hasty, impulse spending. Instead, take time to research whatever you are thinking about buying before you buy it. Remember that you have a lot of choices and you don’t have to settle for the first thing that comes your way. You don’t have to be in a rush to spend your money.

A family member (close relative) will be asking you and your husband for money. Avoid giving too much. Explain to this person that you and your husband are now planning for retirement and must focus primarily on this. Encourage this person to be more financially independent. By being a good example of wise financial planning, you will help this family member more than if you just handed over your money.

Tend to your health and future happiness. The stress of these past years has taken undue toll on you. Take exercise classes and learn to meditate. Listen to relaxing music while you soak in a bathtub of hot water. The key is to relax as much as you can in the best way you know how. This will become more important in the coming years, since you will need to support your husband in learning how to relax and unwind too. Be an example for him. It won’t help to have two stressed-out people approaching retirement. You will have to lead the charge on a restful, happy retirement together.

Do not delay in looking into investments in a foreign country of your choice. Talk it over with your husband and take a trip at your next available opportunity. You won’t regret it.

Now is the time to do it: You must invest in your future health, well-being, and happiness together. Forgiveness is paramount now. Forgiveness will unlock the door that has blocked your financial freedom.

-End of reading-

I wish you the best and may God bless you on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing. —Parama

Letting tears flow during life transition

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Seeking answers to questions about living alone, how to proceed on my career path, my true life purpose, how to be of service “in my very best”, K— writes,

  • Although it could seem that I am in a major transition, it is actually more that I am stepping fully in my life purpose, which brings changes around and within me.
  • Living alone for the first time in 3 years, feels perfect.
  • Working two different jobs, in customer service to pay my overhead, and my true mission/purpose as an Intuitive Life Coach, which is very powerful and incredibly helpful to my clients.
  • I would like to know what I need to know to proceed further on my path. Financially it scares me the most, although I feel I am supposed to stay at my place, financially it does not seem possible at this moment. Work wise, the work I do in the outer world, to pay my overhead, seems to become more and more disconnected from my true purpose and the work, which also pays me, that I do with people.
  • Basically…is my apartment my place to stay?
  • How much longer do I need to work in customer service to support my true calling?
  • What I can do, do I need to know, in regards to my spiritual work, to walk this path fully and be of service in my very best? Thank you soulfully.

Parama received the following information for this Life Reading:

Keeping up something that you dislike at the expense of focusing on what you really want to do is like a fish trying to live on land. The fish will never belong and will always feel uncomfortable, because it is not inside its native habitat.

Plant your feet right where you want to be, and do what you want to do without moving around so much. You must find a way to live in a comfortable place close enough to your clients so that they can come to your office location. You will benefit from creating your own personal office for your business as a Life Coach.

There is a mentor (you haven’t met yet) who can deepen and hone your skills in this area, so that once your apprenticeship with this person (a female) is complete, you will be able to offer a unique service that only you, with your talents and training, can offer.

Consider your current location: Would it help you to expand your clientele if you moved closer to a metropolitan area? Where you are based at this time may be restricting for you in terms of growing your business so that it is lucrative. Only give up your “side job” once you have considered relocating your base where you are living and working. Network with friends in this area, as they can help you out.

Customer service, even though it is not your mission, is part of your training as a Life Coach. This job is important, for you are learning important skills in how to relate to and communicate honestly with people who are very different from you. There is still a lot to learn in this area. The customer service job will naturally fall away once you begin to grow your Life Coach business, but first you must complete your apprenticeship.

Your mother will try to strongly influence you not to move or make your career focus be Life Coaching. Her fears and concerns are borne of her own beliefs that a person cannot be successful as a self-employed service provider. She is afraid for your financial stability. Let this be her concern, and listen when she expresses her concern, but do not be influenced by her strong desire to dissuade you from what you know you want to do.

Life Coaching is your great talent and gift, but you lack experience in certain areas that your mentor will be able to provide for you by letting you observe her sessions with clients. You will gain wisdom and understanding of effective techniques and processes.

There is an artistic aspect of your personality that must be expressed in your work with clients. Do not suppress it, thinking that somehow it does not belong or would not be well received. Your artistic ability, though it takes on a form that may be unusual and nonconventional, will be very important in your sessions with clients, and you will find yourself attracting a certain kind of client – people who are all seeking the same thing, struggling with similar issues, and you will notice a theme: Capture this and use it in the name of your business. (Do not just call it “Life Coaching”; create a unique name that captures the essence of what only you can do).

Embrace and be open to the transition that is happening around you, for a move is a likely possibility, and you will need to make some adjustments. Be prepared for a shift in the kinds of friends you keep, and the amount of time you spend with friends. While social time has been a balm for you for many years, you are beginning a new phase in your life where socializing is not as important as authentic connection with a select few who support and inspire your mission work, and who will help you to take it to the next level.

You will, in time, become a nationally known leader and trainer in your specialized kind of life coaching. You have the potential to become a world-renowned teacher/trainer with workshops in many different countries. This is why customer service is so important for you at this time, as you will need to know how to manage a lot of people with a lot of different personalities and requests.

Do not be discouraged by how the demands of your customer service job seem to deny you the ability to offer life coaching to clients. Remember, the customer service job is currently part of your training ground to becoming the best life coach you can be … and what better way than to get paid on-the-job training? This is a blessing for you.

Take some time to express yourself artistically and reconnect with the joy and satisfaction this brings you. Be moved to tears if you have to, because when you start to express yourself authentically through your art, you may find yourself feeling pain from the many years of pent-up pressure of trying so hard to suppress your natural expression.

Letting tears flow will be a healthy and helpful release. Make time to be alone and do this when and as you need to.

Consider a change in your wardrobe and hairstyle, especially the colors you wear. Choose hues of blue more often, and consume foods that are blue and purple (naturally, not artificially).

Be open to connecting with a new circle of friends and acquaintances, as this will be necessary for the growth and maturation of your immensely successful new business.

Tend to the care of animals more often. Do you want a pet or pets at home? This could do you great good, to nurture an animal and be loved unconditionally by animals.

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I wish you the best and may God bless you on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing. —Parama  

Personal health and wellness

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Seeking guidance about finding my life partner, how to do my spiritual practice, forgiveness, love, and finding a job: V— writes,

  • Why so far have I not been lucky in finding a life partner?
  • Spiritually I am growing all the time but I cannot find it in myself to meditate. Is there a block?
  • All I want to do is meet my life partner in this life and dedicate my life to helping people in whatever form. That’s when I’m at my happiest. I am tired of the corporate life. Am I being wrong in wanting this?
  • I keep getting signs of me needing to open my Heart Chakra, giving and receiving love, forgive…etc. I have been doing as much as I can. What is the best way to do this? Thank you for this opportunity for help. It’s much appreciated.
  • Right now I am jobless. I need a job because I don’t have money right now. Why is it not happening for me? I have 20 years work experience and skills. I have re-located to another city to take care of my Mom who is recovering from surgery. I am finding it difficult to get a job. What do I need to do to change this?

Parama received the following information for this Life Reading:

In a previous life, your partner brutally murdered you by piercing you in the chest with a knife out of revenge and anger. You can release the karmic effects of this trauma by praying and asking God to cleanse and heal these wounds to your subtle emotional body.

This residual trauma has prevented you in this life from being able to receive love when offered to you by a potential partner, for in the past, this brought you to your death. The best way to cleanse away this negative energy is to participate in a ceremony involving fire, whether in the form of a bonfire (with a pile of old shoes?), a sweat lodge, or a small outdoor fire.

A healthy partnership can only come when one can authentically maintain wellness for oneself, independent of the other partner.

Do you honestly feel that you are keeping yourself well, physically and mentally, in your daily life? Is there a substance or a habit that has become addictive and harmful to your health? Are you prepared to address this and make necessary changes so that you can be healthy? Addictions act as a constant distraction from our equanimity and inner peace.

You want to “help others” …. Be sure to help yourself first and feel honestly that you are on the path to getting healthy and free of harmful addiction.

Details about your work situation and finding a job are not relevant to this reading at this time, as your personal health and wellness are of critical importance. Once you address this, then your external circumstances (including your job) will naturally unfold from there.

-End of reading-

I wish you the best and may God bless you on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing. —Parama

Life with a mission and purpose

 

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S— writes with many questions about her mission and purpose on Earth. 

I am struggling with many things… What should I do/be/achieve in my life?

What is my higher purpose on Earth? Parama received the following information for this Life Reading:

  • Consider whether or not your intimate partner is healthy and supportive for you at this time. Do you feel you are investing more energy into the relationship than you are receiving?
  • Fashion design: especially women’s clothing (dresses in particular)
  • A totem pole in the shape of a large bird, then this totem pole transforms into a live hummingbird, then into a whale
  • Consider studying in Boston.
  • Higher purpose is achieving our full potential through the full expression of our unique talents and gifts. Fulfilling your higher purpose does not have to be this heroic, grandiose achievement. We know we are on the path to achieving our higher purpose when we feel a natural flow in our lives and when we feel joy, pleasure, satisfaction, and contentment. You may be putting undue pressure on yourself by believing that your higher purpose is something so grandiose that you could never achieve it, or that it would be a great struggle to do so. This is simply not so. Your gifts and what you love to do are perfectly suited to allow you to fulfill your life’s purpose, which is what brings you joy and therefore helps bring joy to the people around you.
  • A poodle skirt, followed by this information: Study the patterns and designs that have appeared in women’s dressed throughout different eras, as this will inform and inspire you. Seek to understand why those different patterns and designs were popular at those specific times. There is a psychology behind fashion design and fashion preferences. You have a particularly special knack for recognizing and matching a person or a group of people’s psychologies to their fashion choices.
  • Invest in sketch books and a set of pencils. Learn to sketch. Make drawings of the designs and patterns that come to you when you close your eyes and envision “that perfect dress” for a specific occasion or person. There is potential for you to make a successful career out of doing just this kind of work.
  • Remove yourself from pervasive tribal/social conditioning that would have you believe that you cannot achieve your dreams, in particular, your studies and career goals. Do not hold yourself back by buying into self-deprecating or limiting beliefs. You have special, unique talents, and only you can express these gifts with the rest of the world. Believing in yourself is more important than the opinions of your family and friends about what you should do with your life.
  • Surround yourself and expose yourself to your favorite kind of music and visual arts as much as possible. Seek to be inspired in your creative, expressive self. You can do it.

Thank you for requesting a Life Reading. The following interpretation explains how the information from your reading is significant in your life, as well as how you can apply the information to your everyday life.

In this reading, the symbol of a totem pole in the shape of a bird appeared. A totem pole is a symbol of indigenous peoples’ honoring the ancestral spirits, which are the represented by the birds depicted on the totem pole. A bird travels high in the sky, higher than humans can naturally travel. Higher elevation indicates higher connection with spirituality.

A bird is a being that can ascend to higher spiritual heights. A bird represents freedom to humans. Then, that bird transforms into a living hummingbird. The hummingbird goes from flower to flower very quickly. The hummingbird is a net-worker. It makes contact with many different flowers, which could represent people or points of contact. The hummingbird symbolizes an adept communicator connecting with many people.

A whale is a wisdom keeper. Just as the sky and being high in the sky represents a higher connection with universal truth, so to do the depths of the ocean indicate a deeper connection to the truth. A whale is a being that is immersed in the world of spirit who has the wisdom of knowing what is true. Let’s put these symbols together.

The bird represents freedom from tribal constraints. By “tribal”, I do not refer to the cultural traditions belonging to a particular lineage; I am referring to unquestioned beliefs that your family and associates have held, probably for many generations. These can be negative, limiting beliefs that you can choose to free yourself from in order to express your potential and your life purpose. Freeing yourself from tribal constraints and beliefs is the first symbol.

The next symbol answers the question, “If I am rejecting these limiting tribal values, then what should I embrace next in my life? How should I expand into the world if I am breaking away from tribal values that would otherwise pin me down?” That comes through the hummingbird and the whale.

The hummingbird is an adept communicator. It communicates by having contact with many different things. The hummingbird nourishes itself by having contact with many different flowers. Similarly, you could nourish the expression of your vision by having contact with many people, organizations, or groups. The great number of those contacts will help you to realize your full potential.

If you haven’t already done so, you might want to set up a social media page and actively connect with other people who are interested in the same things as you. For example, you might want to attend events where you can meet other people who are doing the kind of work you are interested in.

Then, we have the whale. The whale would be your connection to a profound connection to spirit. This appears to be what you are seeking: the vision for your life purpose. Whale is a symbol of connecting with spirituality by finding flow in your life.

In summary, you are being invited to break free from the tribal customs and beliefs that have been limiting your success and keeping you bound and beholden to ways of being that are outmoded and outdated for you. Next, be prepared to become active in seeking out lots of connections, friends, supporters, other artists, and resources.

You will have a lot of resources socially, and the richness of your social experience will come from having many contacts rather than just a few. Taking these two steps will then put you in a position to connect with the flow of a deep well of spiritual understanding.

-End of reading-

I wish you blessings on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing.—Parama  

Overcoming obstacles to put your life, house, and relationships in order

dragon fly and lily

This reader requested a Life Reading to answer urgent questions about relationship, spirituality, and how to earn money:

  • What would you recommend I need to change or do so I can find a good relationship?
  • I am currently starting to move more quickly in the right spiritual direction. Any advice on what I should focus on the most so I don’t get misled off the right path?
  • Do you have any advice on what I need to do or how I can remove my karmic debt, as I seem to be experiencing problem after problem and finding it difficult to make and keep money?

Parama received the following symbols and phrases in this reading:

  • A racer tilted forward on the saddle of a racehorse on the racetrack (a static image, not a moving image)
  • Sled dogs pulling a sled
  • A downhill skier racing down a steep slope
  • A fully blossomed lily
  • A dragon fly
  • A wagon with a hitch not hitched to anything
  • A quill pen resting in an ink well
  • “Write your partner a letter in your own handwriting.”
  • “Listen when people talk to you. Really think about what they’ve said before you respond.”
  • The opening scene (when the curtains part for the first time) of a live theater performance in a spacious theater with red velvet curtains
  • “Take your partner to a live theater performance in a fancy theater.”
  • “Adopt a puppy and learn to train it. This will be an important lesson in waiting to get your partner pregnant until you’re ready.”
  • “We are very pleased that you are on the path. Remember there is always higher to go, higher to look. Don’t settle for what is comfortable.”
  • “Invest in a new camera with better resolution.”
  • “Create cleanliness and organization in your home, especially your bedroom.”
  • “Put plants in your house.”
  • “Surround yourself with nature.”
  • “Find something to hitch your wagon to.”

The following interpretation explains each of these symbols, their meanings, and how this information can be applied in everyday life:

Thank you for requesting a Life Reading. It looks like you’ve been taking actions to move your life in a more positive direction. This reading will help you focus those actions so that you can more readily accomplish your goals and be on track for the next set of spiritual lessons that you are ready for.

A racer tilted forward on the saddle of a racehorse on the racetrack This indicates the idea of forward action but not actual forward action. So there are ideas forming in your mind of how you can progress in your life and do what you need to do, but right now they’re really just ideas. The symbol is indicating that you are going to need to pick something and “make it real”. The action that you have to take is like going from a photograph of a horse jockey to being on an actual racehorse in a race. You have the concept. You have some right ideas that will work for you. Now you need to go and do them.

Sled dogs pulling a sled Sled dogs are a symbol of working together as a team. Also, secondarily, “over a long haul”. This symbol addresses all three of your questions. You are going to need to discover how to work as part of a team that actually works together, sometimes very closely, to get things done.

A downhill skier racing down a steep slope This symbol is about being focused and deliberate in what you do. A downhill skier in motion is focused and deliberate and completely in the action. It’s not conceptual; it’s the natural result of being in step with your intentions and the results that come from alignment with your intentions and your actions.

A fully blossomed lily A lily derives its nutrients from muddy standing water. The lily is a symbol of taking your inner spiritual work and transforming it into a full, beauteous, unique expression of your gifts. This symbol indicates that the struggles that you have been going through and are going through now are raw materials for a full expression of your true gifts to come. The way to look at your struggles is that they are nourishing you deep down, that you may grow and form the fullest expression of your unique gifts, so that your unique gifts are “in full flower”.

“Invest in a new camera with better resolution.” This can be taken both as a specific instruction (find and buy a new camera) and as a symbolic message. In order to be the kind of team player that you are being called on in order to realize your ambitions, you are going to need to invest energy and awareness in becoming more sensitive to the emotional nuances in the environments in which you live and work. The way to do this right now is to “Listen when people talk to you. Really think about what they’ve said before you respond.” You’ve been attempting to fill all the spaces, and it doesn’t work. This is reflected in the clutter in your house and the seeming difficulty in being where you want to be as far as relationships go.

A dragonfly The symbol indicates that you are being gently summoned to become more aware of your spirituality. “Create cleanliness and organization in your home, especially your bedroom.” View cleaning clutter as a spiritual exercise – an exercise in discovering what is truly important to you. If you can, enlist the help of someone else to help you follow through with this. For example, you might tell a friend that you have set a stretch goal for yourself to clean and organize your bedroom by this day next week. Pick a date by which you can do it, then have your friend follow up with you on that day to make sure that you’re doing it and hold you accountable if you don’t follow through.

“Put plants in your house.” Plants are protectors. Not only can they help clean your environment in your home, but they will also absorb some of the impact from unhelpful energies that may be directed toward you. Plants will brighten up your house, help you feel more in connection with nature, and will ground you in a regular “devotional practice” of watering and caring for your plants.

“Surround yourself with nature.” In addition to bringing live plants into your home, make it a point to go out and be in natural places that you enjoy.

A wagon with a hitch not hitched to anything. “Find something to hitch your wagon to.” You seem to have good ideas and the ability to follow through with them, but you lack direction. Your guides are happy that you are embracing the spiritual path more in your life. One of the things that your spiritual awakening can help you realize is a good and fulfilling focus for your life.

A quill pen resting in an ink well “Write your partner a letter in your own handwriting.” You know whom this is meant for. Write from the heart rather than attempting to promote yourself. Share with your partner what you would really like. Don’t seek anything specific from your partner in this letter. Just say what you would like to have in your life. The more straightforward and personal, the better. This is not the place for romantic sonnets or entreaties for love. Keep it real and honest.

“Listen when people talk to you. Really think about what they’ve said before you respond.” You will get better at this with practice. Try it out the next time you are at a social gathering. When you go to a gathering to practice this, make it a point to remain silent longer than you normally would and let the other person talk more. Let them keep going. Don’t jump in and say anything. Watch what happens.

The opening scene (when the curtains part for first time) of a live theater performance in a spacious theater with red velvet curtains “Take your partner to a live theater performance in a fancy theater.” “Adopt a puppy and learn to train it. This will be an important lesson in waiting to get your partner pregnant until you’re ready.” Perhaps you’ve been thinking that somehow having a child with your partner will “cement” things. It is an awesome responsibility to bring new life onto the planet. The culture you find yourself in pays little respect to the importance of parenting a child with the intention to support and raise that child to maturity. These shared cultural values are not working out so well for anyone, even the parents who seem to “get off scot free.” If you are truly interested in having a child, take the initial step of bringing a puppy into your life. Get a young pup that has just finished weaning and needs to be trained in everything, including being housebroken, what to chew on and what not to chew on, not to bite people, how to walk on a leash, responding to commands and hand signals, etc. If after five or six months of training and caring for your puppy, you still have the desire to have a child, you will do so having some small indication of the level of commitment it will take to bring another human being into this world with strength and with love.

“We are very pleased that you are on the path. Remember there is always higher to go, higher to look. Don’t settle for what is comfortable.” Once you have mastered the set of lessons before you, the next set of lessons will appear. There is never an “end” to the spiritual path. Whenever you feel as though you have mastered the present set of teachings and life seems to be going well, know that a new set of teachings will soon appear and that what you found comfortable will now become the starting point for a new threshold of spiritual realization for you.

-End of interpretation-

Blessings to you on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing.  –Parama

Why we suffer and how to stop it

Photo credit: ascensionearth2012.org

Photo credit: ascensionearth2012.org

Earth is a well loved place. Ascended beings send beams of light from all directions onto the planet to create a shield of protection and a constant source of loving, healing energy.

It is well known that Earth is a difficult place to be. Humans have chosen to come here to “experience themselves”, to individuate, and in so doing, to forget their inherent oneness with all of creation. Under the illusion of separation, humans are subjected to lifetimes of suffering, until finally they once again realize their oneness with all of creation.

It is no small feat to have incarnated as a human on Earth. To be human is a post that is highly respected by beings of light and coveted by beings of darkness who would seek to enjoy the worldly pleasures that only humans can experience.

The ascended beings respect and love us because they recognize our suffering. They see how we are trapped in a world of duality and must struggle through lifetimes of incarnations before we can enter the heavenly realms. They know that although we once made the choice to come here, we are now lost in amnesia. This is why they have such deep love, respect and compassion for us.

The beings of light know that humans are limited by their own forgetfulness and are forced to enjoy only what worldly pleasures can bring. Yet the ascended masters know that there is so much more to be experienced and that material enjoyment is but a drop in the eternal sea of endless bliss that is all of creation.

We truly are made in the image of God. In other words, we have the potential for perfection: perfect love, perfect knowledge, perfect bodies, a perfect world. Yet in our state of drunken stupor with temporary material pleasures, we are forced to experience all manner of suffering, so long as we keep choosing to lord it over this material world. We suffer because we seek to enjoy only for ourselves. We forget about others – all the other beings who are also made in the image of God. We are forced to see all those other people as a reflection of how we see ourselves, which is a projection based on what we have done, what we have said, and what we have thought about up till now.

And so we go on planting the seeds for how we perceive ourselves, how we perceive others, and how we perceive the world around us by our very actions, words and thoughts. As humans, we can choose to plant seeds of our own suffering, or we can choose to plant seeds of our own happiness.

That we have access to such a myriad of choices and a range of dualistic experiences commands great respect and deep compassion from beings of light who watch over us. They are a constant loving presence to bear witness to our activities.

To awaken is to remember and reconnect with our inherent potential for divine perfection. To awaken is to remember that we did not come here for selfish enjoyment: We are here to help each other stop suffering.

Imagine a world where each person’s only concern is to make the other person happy, where everyone goes out of their way to provide for the needs of the people around them. Wouldn’t that be something we could call paradise? Heaven: a place where only God would live. Precisely.

To awaken is to realize oneself to be such a perfect reflection of God that there is no difference between oneself and God. In a perfect world, how could there be any separation of perfect oneness into parts of a whole?

The hollow reed: Unpacking dimensions of meaning from a vision quest

hollow reed

A Life Reading is a therapeutic process using intuition and access to subtle energies for the purpose of receiving real-time information and guidance for the life an individual or an organization. Here’s how it works: I enter into a meditative state in which I receive distinct impressions about an individual or organization. I often receive still images or sequences of movie-like images in response to whatever questions I ask with the intention to receive guidance, insights, and solutions for a range of issues along the life path.

In this reading, an abstract symbol — a hollow reed — appeared that had many dimensions of meaning packed into it. This one symbol illustrates how an abstract symbol in a reading can have multiple dimensions of meaning. The reading contained a total of six symbols, and this was one of those six symbols.

The first symbol that appeared to me was “an open-faced cylinder that was rotating from left to right, back and forth, back and forth.” That is the information that we started with. Right here, we have a lot of possibilities. If it is a recognizable object, that will give us one level of meaning. If it is a completely abstract object, then we still can unpack information from things such as, How long is it? How thick is it? What kind of surface does the cylinder have? Is there anything in the cylinder? Is there a color to the cylinder? Is there an opacity? Is the whole cylinder moving? Is it rotating? Is it sweeping from side to side, or is it doing kind of a rolling motion? All of these details give possibly new information that will lead us to the full meaning packed into the original symbol.

There are some standard meanings for cylindrical symbols that we get from Native American symbols that we could call the “hollow bone” or the “hollow reed”. A “hollow bone” or a “hollow reed” describes the function of humans to be a conduit for highly spiritual information coming from the creator and entering the realm of Earth. When humans recognize themselves as healers, their real work is to become that “hollow bone” or “hollow reed”. So the idea is that as a “hollow bone” or a “hollow reed”, we set our egoic pursuits aside in order to allow ourselves to be vessels through which spiritual information from a higher source enters the realm of humanity. That energy blows through us as wind through a hollow bone or a hollow reed.

There was nothing special about the length. It wasn’t especially short, especially long, or especially thick. No particular color, no particular texture. It could be a perfect tube that is open on the inside. Next, he asked questions about the movement. In my vision I could see that the reed was moving from side to side, back and forth. The reed was moving from a central point, pointing up toward me, facing me, and drawing an arc like a small hill from left to right, and then the same shape from right to left. An arc drawn from left to right, and then another arc from right to left, where the reed moved up and then back down to the same height on the other end. It had two end points, a left end point and a right end point, and was a little bit higher in the middle. It never varied from this; it simply kept moving back and forth, back and forth.

In this symbol, we now have a left end point and a right end point for the transit of the reed. Left and right have special meanings. Right signifies the right side of the body, which includes the analytical capabilities, the abstract capabilities, and capabilities typically associated with the masculine. This would include analyzing, planning, executing a plan, undertaking a task, fulfilling a mission. Things involved with going out, seeking a resource, and doing some action out in the world. The left side is the feminine side, and it reflects the emotional, the intuitive, where the work involved is about fostering communication, nurturing, building community, supporting, holding space, and creating nourishing environments. These are all qualities on the left side. The reed was transiting from left to right and left to right.

There was a natural arc in the transit of the reed. An arc is a basic symbol that describes any kind of a journey, such as a life journey, an actual physical journey with a beginning, a middle, and an end, a story line with a beginning, middle and an end. There was an arc and then there were end points, the left and right. The symbol indicated that my healing work was being expressed in three primary ways within this particularly challenging environment that the reading was about. There was a left end point, a transit in the middle, and then there was a right end point. When we looked at the qualities of the left side of the brain: analytical, working with spreadsheets, working with numbers, working with plans, that kind of thing, it turned out that there was activity in my life that corresponded to left brain where there were discrete tasks that I would be frequently called upon to do that were within the domain of my environment.

Then I considered the right end point. As an intuitive therapist, my work involves spiritual work where I receive intuitive information about my clients. So the right transit point had represented the activities associated with the right side of the brain. Now for the arc in the middle: most of the time of the transit of the reed was spent in movement rather than being at one of the end points.

As a therapist, I had actually been thinking about my work as primarily the left- brained, analytical work, or the right-brained work, which was the more intuitive, insightful work; when most of the time of the reed was actually spent moving from one side to the other. Within this environment that I was asking about in the reading, my work in those two principle areas was frequently interrupted by a whole ongoing cavalcade of events, from disturbances in the environment to personal issues needing to be resolved with people in the environment, to the environment itself.

There were constant demands on me that frequently would pull me away from these two loci of work that I was primarily identifying as my work: the left-brained and the right-brained. It was a helpful insight for me to realize that a significant part of my spiritual work in this environment is to be in the transit from one to the other. Here’s where we get into the arc and the slope of the reed. When the reed was at one or the other end of the arc, it was slightly lower. In other words, the slope was closer to being flat than straight up. In the middle, it was closer to pointing straight up than being flat. In symbolic terminology, the higher something is in elevation or the greater the slope is of a line, the greater the degree of spiritual vibration in the information coming through that symbol.

The slope was a positive slope on the ends, but it went up even higher in the middle. This indicated that in terms of my work of being a “hollow reed” – a conduit for higher order spiritual information to enter the realm of humanity — that I was not actually doing my discreet work in either the left space or the right space, but while I was in transit amongst all the things happening. While in transit, this was where the fullest expression of that higher spiritual energy was coming through. This proved to be a revelation for me and significantly helped to quell some of my concerns and fears about being in this environment.

For example, I was thinking of all the interruptions and changes in the environment, the personalities moving through, and all the cavalcade of activity in the busy environment as being colossal distractions that prevented me from being effective. The symbol in this reading indicated, however, that it was in those moments where I was in the midst of transiting from one activity to the next in this constant sort of flow where the highest frequency of spiritual expression was actually occurring.

So, it turns out that among the things that I was doing in this environment is to actually be a model of how to move deftly and flexibly from one discreet activity to the next in a constantly shifting environment involving personalities, egos, changing weather, including intense beating sun and torrential rains and thunder and lightning storms, machines and vehicles that are turning on and off and needing repair and sometimes failing and requiring interventions … lots of things going on. This much information was powerful.

Then there was another dimension still. I asked about the reed, whether it was swaying from side to side or rotating. It turned out that it wasn’t swaying or sweeping, but it was actually rotating. It was as though it was connected to a fixed point in the distance and then would roll, rather than sliding or sweeping, it would roll from side to side along its arc.

Since I have extensive training and background in physical therapy and bodywork, I have a lot of experience teaching people how to maintain flexibility and alacrity in their physical bodies. Now, this symbol of the reed rotating indicated that in my spiritual work in this environment, I am being called upon to transfer what I had learned about remaining deft and light on my feet and able to roll with changing physical conditions: to port that knowledge over into the actual living space itself. And being in that living environment itself. That this was an essential aspect of my work in this environment, to not only learn how to and practice deftly maneuvering from one constantly changing situation to the next, but to model that and to be an exemplar of that by simply doing it.

Let’s review the elements in this one symbol of a single hollow reed rotating from left to right, back and forth, repeatedly. The first layer of information in this symbol was the object itself. While I described it as an open faced cylinder, we recognized the cylinder as a universal symbol that could be represented as a “hollow bone” or a “hollow reed” indicating a spiritual worker, a person who is dedicated to being a conduit for divine intelligence in the human realm. The details of this symbol, specifically, the movement and the rolling action, gave me details about how I was to be that conduit of divine intelligence in the challenging environment that I was requesting information about. The reed was making motions from side to side in an arc.

We’ve identified three stages of the movement of the reed: the left end point, the arc itself, and the right end point as discreet expressions of my work. There was something that was primarily left-brained or masculine type of activity. There was something that was primarily right-brained or primarily feminine kind of activity that is more intuitive or emotional. Then there was the arc itself. The amount of time the reed spent in each of these places indicated the relative amount of time that I spent in each of the three categories. The reed spent most of its time in transit, which told us that while I was able to identify the end points, that the majority of my spiritual work, the work that I was there to do for my learning, was in fact involved with the constant shifting from one activity to the next en route to the discreet activities.

The higher slope indicates greater spiritual awareness, higher vibratory energy in the information. This is also true of altitude. The higher something appears from the ground level in a symbol, the more it encapsulates higher spiritual awareness. These elements all combine in one single symbol to provide several dimensions of meaning that in visioning time occurred within only about five seconds.

The hollow reed is an example of how we can use one single, abstract symbol within a Life Reading to unpack dimensions of meaning for the purpose of providing deeper insight, solutions to life problems, comfort, reassurance, and encouragement along the life’s path.

At any moment, you could be staring death in the face. The dance of life is your dress rehearsal for that moment.

owl's face

Recently diagnosed with cancer, a friend of mine (a man in his late 50’s) requested a Life Reading as he undergoes a spiritual transformation. He is currently making some important decisions that directly impact his family and his lifestyle. The following symbols appeared to Parama in this Life Reading:

  • Close-up to an owl’s face
  • Cross-section of a citrus fruit with clairaudient message, “Eat citrus.”
  • View of a forest canopy, as if lying on a lush, forest floor at base of a tall tree, looking straight up at the tree
  • Still image of the classical “dancing Shiva nataraja,” with the prominent feature of the image being the act of dancing and how Shiva is holding up his foot

The following is a letter I wrote to my friend about these symbols, their meaning, and how this information can be applied in everyday life:

You are now experiencing a major transition in which you must face death directly. The image of the owl’s face appears as very intense and confrontational, not in a threatening way, but in a way that you cannot avoid or ignore. At this time in your life, you are facing your own death.

The image of a sliced citrus fruit and the accompanying message indicates that there may be some health benefit for you to eat citrus at this time. It could also be a symbol of enjoying the fruits of your labor, of seeds that you planted long ago or even recently, which are now showing up in their fullness in your life.

Be mindful of the blessings that come to you, and realize that they are the result of how you’ve lived your life thus far. If you wish to continue enjoying such blessings, then focus on planting more of these seeds in the time you have left on this earth.

Looking up at a tall tree as you lie on a lush forest floor indicates that you would do well to find repose and perhaps a retreat in nature. To connect with nature at this time would be very healing and rejuvenating for you (symbolized by the lush greenness of this natural setting). It will also help you view life from a broad and uplifting perspective (symbolized by “looking up to the heavens”).

The image of a dancing Shiva nataraja signifies that you are now embodying the fullness of your spiritual understanding of reality and ultimate truth. A fully empowered being, Shiva is dancing to remind us of how reality itself is but a dance, a divine play of illusion through which we must all move in order to realize ultimate truth. This indicates that as you face your death, you are being presented with an opportunity to “be in the dance” and gain profound spiritual wisdom.

Consider researching the significance of the “dancing Shiva nataraja” in order to gain a deeper understanding, according to the classical Vedas (scriptures). You may wish to consider how you can share your wisdom with others. Now is the time.

Blessings to you on your life’s journey. Thank you for writing. –Parama